In my last edition of Lipgloss & Lace, I explored body issues (again), specifically with the focus being on the drama between “Fit Mom,” and “Curvy Girl.”
I want to take a look even further, and to illustrate my point in a much stronger way than I could with words, please check out this video before continuing reading.
Wow. If you’re anything like me, you may need some time to process that. You may need the time to grab a tissue and dab away a tear.
Now… First of all, how beautiful! I thought it was such an amazing project, and one that really hit me hard. Why, you might ask?
I felt that it was SO BRAVE of the people in the video to do what they did. In fact, I thought to myself “I am not even sure if I would want to see that of me!”
A friend and I had a feeling that we had distorted ideas of our own body images, and set out to find each other’s body double, which we never successfully found. In fact, the closest to my body double was actually a drag performer, since I am on the muscular side. Can you imagine having a mannequin made with your measurements?
I think there should be. What percentage of people are shaped like store mannequins? I bet it is under 5%.
Mannequins as representation of how clothes are supposed to fit are just another way that fitting in with an ideal (and a nearly impossible to reach one, at that) is perpetuated.
Here’s another video that I thought was a great summary of how the media affects our self-esteems.
We’re all familiar with the photoshopping and such, but what can we do about it? I thought it was so profound when she said that the first thing she said is that we need to recognize it. This is a big challenge for me, too! I need to stop comparing myself to images I see in magazines. Even Cindy Crawford wished she looked like Cindy Crawford! While I love the photoshopped version of myself, and I love my unretouched self, I need to learn to love the latter more (say that ten times fast)!
A while back, I said that I needed to make a commitment to spreading positivity in my own media and social media, and I am going to do that now by recognizing a magazine that has a no-photoshop policy that I love!
Here’s an article and some pictures to go with it!
I have to say that I love that white suit, and it looks way better Realway than on the Runway!
As a designer, or as a boutique owner, or press, or whatever your role is in the industry, what can you do to help the self esteem of your customer? If you’re a woman, how can you empower yourself? How can you empower other women?
Before I conclude, I want to give a taste of things to come, as well as an invitation.
First of all, I wanted to invite you all to take part in a 30-day goal setting and organizational challenge that I will be leading on facebook starting Wednesday, January first. If you are interested, please contact me! My info is below.
Secondly, if you aren’t already, please follow me on social media, as I will be making a big announcement in the next couple weeks. I am super excited! Plus, I love connecting with people and would love to dialogue with you all!
Finally, let’s make a commitment to positivity in 2014! Who’s with me?
Amanda Mutchie began her professional modeling career nearly ten years ago, and has appeared in many national and international publications, and commercials. Over the course of her modeling career, she worked with many acclaimed makeup artists, learning from them along the way. She eventually became a makeup artist herself and started FaceScape Artistry. Now she works with incredible photographers, models, brides, and other clients to create glamorous as well as natural makeup looks. She also channels her passion for fitness and nutrition and desire to help others into her work as a beachbody coach, and is pursuing her Master’s degree in Curriculum and Instruction.
For more information on Mandie go towww.MandieM.com, www.facescapeartistry.com, email Mandie at firstname.lastname@example.org or follow her on Twitter @mandelicious. Don’t forget to “like” her pages on facebook, too! www.facebook.com/MandieLM &www.facebook.com/FaceScapeArtistry www.lipglossnlace.com
*picture by Michael Coakes – www.coakes.com